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I knew that the things he was doing were hurtful, and I knew I didn’t like them, and I wished he wouldn’t do them, but

When you are trying to work with an abuser, everything is hard, hard work and you’re the only one who is truly doing the work.

The idea of being committed to a life partner and the shared relationship is a piece of common wisdom that helps people weather the difficulties

I thought we just had some quirks that needed to be worked out. —Anika I was telling my therapist and my close friends what was

I can’t believe I was such an idiot. It took me a long time to forgive myself for allowing that to happen. —Paige A friend

Once abused people can’t deny their anger any longer, they often have an internal struggle trying to reconcile anger with their self-image as a kind,