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Most emotionally abused people think they are just dealing with the kinds of relationship issues all couples face. They usually feel shock, disbelief, and shame when they realize that their trusted life partner is emotionally abusive. They wonder how it is possible they didn’t know this—and why they tolerated the mistreatment as long as they did.

The idea of being committed to a life partner and the shared relationship is a piece of common wisdom that helps people weather the difficulties most couples face. This sense of commitment leads abused people to stay with toxic partners in the belief that if they keep trying to work it out, things will get better.

With increased understanding, abused partners judge themselves less and respect themselves more, clearing the way for them to develop the confidence and strength they need to begin the healing process.